And where do you get? NOWHERE
My friend, I'd like to inform you that in that moment, you are on the Crazy Cycle.
We've been watching a series of video's with our Young Married's bible study by Emerson Eggerichs called the Love and Respect Conference. And man is it good. It's one of those, slap ya in the face, spin ya around and make you look at everything from a completely different perspective.......your husband's. Who knew.
The Crazy Cycle is negative emotions feeding negative emotions. Men thrive on respect. This should not be a surprise. And women, we thrive on love. But when a man acts unloving toward his wife, how does she often react? DISRESPECTFUL. And when a man feels disrespected by his wife, how does he act? UNLOVING. Do you see the Crazy Cycle?! It's easy to see, but so much harder to get off! Here's a perfect example.
We watched the last session tonight and what really hit me was this:
The real relationship is between us, as individuals, and our Lord. And for a small fraction of eternity, our spouse passes between us and God. For that short time, my reverance to God will spill over to my husband. The example Emerson uses is to imagine God standing behind your spouse, saying "Don't worry about Joe, focus on Me. Show reverence to Me. Let Joe go, love and respect Me." When we are focussed on being one with Christ, he will give us the strength to love our spouse for who God made them to be, thick skull and all.
This Conference opened my eyes to so many things. It is an amazing video series. Emerson is sooo sooooo easy to listen to...and really funny! I totally recommend it for watching with a close-knit small group. It's for young-married's like us and for old-marrieds too! Please take a minute and look into it. Read some his articles. You won't regret it.
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I can wholeheartedly recommend this series as well. Cammy, are we living the same lives in different countries?;-) LOL Handsome and I have gone through that series twice since we've been married, and each time we learned something new. We even bought the books for ourselves, with the companion DVD. By the end, you feel like Emerson and his wife are your buddies. My favorite part was where his wife has all the women in the audience hold their husbands arms, and as soon as they did, the men all flexed their muscles a little, and she said, 'They all just flexed, didn't they?" Men want to be our protector and the big strong men and have you respect them! And another thing I loved from it was when they talked about how sometimes, men just want you around to share space with, like to sit out and read while they're washing the car. They don't want to talk - they just like sharing space. This is one of Emerson's talks, I think, and he said after an example of that one time, "That was great!" It was hilarious, b/c every week, it seemed like the scenarios in the video were lived out in our home. LOL Anywho... can you tell, that's one of my favorite studies of all time? LOL You got me started!!!
Oh - and thanks for stopping over to my blog today. Good to know I'm not the only one having cordless drill company for breakfast! How about the dog biscuits and the extra cans of soda to go with your fruit? LOL
By the by... my word verification is "cable." Is that God subtly telling me the next expense I need to cut from our budget? Hm..... ;-)
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